在国外生病了，一点都不好受。
尤其是语言不通的时候。。。
还好， 医院就在我家对面。 5 星级的医院， 口袋穿了个大洞。。。 haihhh
This is forwarded to me by my best friend a couple of months back… I just wanna post it here as a reminder of what we sometimes fail to realised…
Interesting quote from the movie ‘Why did I get married?’
In most cases, especially in relationships, you will only get 80% of what you NEED and you will hardly get the other 20% that you WANT in your relationship.
There is always another person (man or woman) that you will meet and that will offer you the other 20% which is lacking in your relationship that you WANT. And believe me, 20% looks really
good when you are not getting it at all in your current relationship.
good when you are not getting it at all in your current relationship.
But the problem is that you will always be tempted to leave that good 80% that you know you have, thinking that you will get something better with the other 20% that you WANT.
But as reality has proven, in most cases, you will always end up with having the 20% that you WANT and loosing the 80% that you really NEED, and that you already had.
Be careful in deciding between what you WANT and NEED in your life.
Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don’t have. ‘Wow, this girl in my office is a real looker. But it’s not her Wynona Rider features that got me. I’m crazy about her because she’s also
understanding, intelligent, tender - so many things that my spouse is not’
Somewhere along the way, you’ll find a woman or a man who will be more charming or sensitive. More alluring. More thoughtful. Richer. Have greater sex appeal. And you will find a woman or man who will need you and pursue you and go loco over you more than your spouse ever did.
Because no wife or husband is perfect. Because a spouse will only have 80% of what you’re looking for. So adultery takes place when a husband or wife looks for the missing 20%. Let’s say your wife is melancholic
by nature.
You may find yourself drawn to the pretty clerk who has a cherry laugh no matter what she says: ‘I broke my arm yesterday, Hahahaha . . ..’
Or because your wife is a homebody in slippers and pajamas, smelling of garlic and fish oil, you may fall for a fresh-smelling young sales representative that visits your office in a sharp black blazer, high heels, and a red pencil-cut skirt. Or because your husband is the quiet type, your heart may skip a beat when you meet an old college flame who has the makings of a talk show host.
But wait! That’s only 20% of what you don’t have.
Don’t throw away the 80% that you already have!
That’s not all. Add to your spouse’s 80% the 100% that represents all the years that you have been with each other. The storms you have weathered together. The unforgettable moments of sadness and joy as a
couple. The many adjustments you have made to love the other. The wealth of memories that you’ve accumulated as lovers.
Sidenote: The late actor, YUL BRYNNER (remember the baldy in “The King & I ??), once said that:
“If you are looking for a wife who is beautiful, intelligent and loving…you are not looking for one wife, but THREE” !!!!!!!!!!!!
Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don’t have. But faithfulness happens when you start thanking God for what you already have.But I’m not just talking about marriage.
I’m talking about life!
About Your Family.
About your jobs.
About your friends.
About your children.
About your lifestyles.
Are you like the economy airline passenger that perennially peeks through the door of the first class cabin, obsessed with what he’s missing? ‘They have got more leg room! Oh my, their food is served in
porcelain! Wow, their seats recline at an 80% angle and they’ve got personal videos!’
I guarantee you’ll be miserable for the entire trip! Don’t live your life like that. Forget about what the world says is first class. Do you know that there are many first class passengers who are miserable
in first class — because they are not riding in a private Lear Jet?
The moral of the story…..???
If you start appreciating what you have right now, wherever you are,
you are first class!
magnifying things.
Yes. I know I can do it.
the right kinda wrong, or wrong kinda right?
How do you choose?
Imagine.. you have a friend in the exact same situation as you, and she came to you for consultation.
What advise would you give her?
Now, write it down on a piece of paper, or better yet, look into the mirror, speak to the person in the mirror, as if that was your troubled friend.
Take a minute to reflect those words on yourself.
See… why do we only give out advises and not practice it when we already damn well know what we should be doing?
The next time when you feel like life is a mess, put your words into action.
Life could be simpler.
Trust me. ( I know, it’s ironic coming out from me. But hey, positive thinking is a good start, no?)
有一种后悔，比遗憾更遗憾…
First few months after a break up always feel like hell. It may not seem that bad at the beginning… but it just gets worst after a while. Break ups always have “lag effect”. What may seem like a relief at first will start hitting you after you start forgetting the pain you went through or the reasons for breaking up, and worst still when you start recollecting all the memories and happy moments you spent together…
When this happen, you start feeling lonely and start missing him/her, and start feeling like probably you should have just try to work things out after all. You start finding all excuses to forgive the other person’s wrongdoing, or flaws. You start forgetting your determination to break up and to move on and right now, all you wanted is to go back into your comfort zone. At this very point, you are at your weakest and this is where most people turn back and go back to their ex.
Well, if things work out well this time, your luck must have been really good or you probably did made a mistake for breaking up. And if this is the case, well, CONGRATULATIONS.
But often, this is not the case. Things usually seem perfect for the first few weeks, or probably months and the same old arguments come back into the picture later on. How many of you have been into a break up, make up, break up again and make up again situation and finally realised you are not meant for each other?
It’s just tiring to see my friends getting into the same situation again and again. Seriously, how many times do you need to break up to realised that someone is not right for you? Don’t you realised that, the longer you dread to solve the problem, the harder it is to solve? So often I hear my friend saying this, “..But we have been together like forever… and we have been trying so hard to work things out…” So how many times do you want to try? Did you not tried hard enough for the last few times? If everything were so perfect, why would you break up in the first place? Did you really make up because you felt that things are going to work out this time and you are finally ready to compromise and that you have made a wrong decision for breaking up, or did you just need someone and got too used to that someone? Or maybe your friends are telling you that it’s such a waste for you to break up because you have been together forever?
Think about it.
You see this hanging bridge? It may seem old, rickety, flimsy, unstable etc. and if you are not careful, you might just slip and fall. The height just scares the shit out of you. All you see is uncertainties, and you don’t even know if you going to make it through safely.
But before you decide to run back, think about this. Do you really want to stay on this side of the bridge forever and be somewhat happy, or do you want to take the risk of having 50/50 chance to be happier? Do you really want your chances to stop just here? Are you sure you will stop whinning if things just don’t work out again? Running backwards may bring you certainties, but by doing so, you will never know what’s on the other side, and you will never know if something better is on the other side. Well, no doubt there’s a risk of falling harder, but life is always about taking risk and learning from mistakes right?
I know it’s hard… but just hang in there for a little longer. Once you have make up your mind to cross that bridge, don’t look back. There may be obstacles, but once you get through it, you will realised its not that hard after all.
I’m always here to support you. Don’t be afraid of loneliness. Coz you are not the only one. Never settle for the second best. Coz you, you and EVERYONE OF YOU… definitely deserve the BEST.
与其让你在我怀中枯萎 宁愿你犯错后悔
让你飞向梦中的世界 留我独自伤悲
与其让你在我爱中憔悴 宁愿你受伤流泪
我非要你尝尽了苦悲 才懂真情可贵
她望着他， 问了这样的一句话， “我可以抱你吗？”
他愣着了， 顿时不知该怎样的反应过来。3 秒钟后， 说了一声 “哦”。
她笑了笑说， “开玩笑的啦！”
她其实没有开玩笑，只是， 虽然借了个肩膀靠一靠可以觉得安慰一点， 借了个胸膛可以温暖一点， 那短暂的感觉，又能带来什么了？
不过，她还是谢谢他说了 “哦”。
that insecurities kill.
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